Are you single? Are you in ministry at your church or an organization, either at home or overseas? Are you dedicating your time to serving God? Are you involved in your local church?
We should be all that and more. We need to be part of community. We need to be helping out when we see a need. We need to be dedicating our time to serving God in various ways.
If you are self-seeking, looking for friends and a good time, then you are ignorant. As a Christian we need to seek the Lord. Not only singles but everyone, needs to be seeking the Lord and how to serve Him.
There is another ignorance that I want to discuss here. Are you aware of your surroundings? Are you aware of who are you influencing? Are you aware of who you may be hindering? Are you listening to authority in your spiritual walk?
We sometimes understand the first point and throw ourselves whole-heartedly into serving the Lord. Helping in our churches. But then we forget the second part. We are blind to the fact that we are hurting families. We are blind to the fact that we are hurting marriages. We will work hard in a ministry right alongside the pastor, youth pastor, associate pastor, worship pastor, or whomever may be in charge of the ministry. We are ignorant to the looks we receive from others. We need to be careful. We can cause rumors to be spread about these men in leadership. We can even cause them to stumble. We must be aware.
Yes, throw yourself into ministry. But don’t be alone in the same office with a man. No matter how old or in love he is with his wife. Don’t joke with him as a brother, no matter how much you have no intentions for him. Many ministries are hurt by single women not being aware of how it looks. They don’t mean to hurt a marriage. They don’t mean to break up a church. They never mean to fall in love with someone else’s husband. But then it happens. Being alone together, working on the same goal, you like each other. You depend on each other, and then you fall for each other.
Single women: Don’t be ignorant of this potential pitfall. You may have pure intentions, but in the end it causes pain on so many levels.
I have seen missionaries leave the field, divorce, church leaders crash, churches split, and families hurt, all because of single women not being careful about boundaries.